40th Anniversary of The “est” Training

Forty years after the inception of “est,” one of the original intensive consciousness seminars that launched the Human Potential Movement of the 70s, its graduates are reuniting at the Biltmore Hotel in Los Angeles on December 17th. Read More

I just read such a depressing book that it would make just about anyone need an antidepressant if it wasn’t for the fact that the book itself debunks the entire psychopharmacological industry in such a convincing way that it would be maddening if it weren’t so saddening. Read More

Self-Caregiver Burnout

By Eliezer Sobel on July 16, 2011 in The 99th Monkey
In the infant days of the New Age movement in the United States, it was often said about relationships that, “In order to truly love someone else, you have to love yourself first.” I tried that, but found that I needed to have an open relationship with myself, so if things didn’t work out I’d be free to see other people. Read More

I Go To Pieces

The foot guy at the Hospital for Special Surgery in New York told me I had no cartilage in my big toes, and I only had two choices: surgery to fuse the bones, or be in pain when I walk. The surgery requires ten weeks recovery time per toe, most of it lying down. Read More

I’m the Gift!

By Eliezer Sobel on May 14, 2011 in The 99th Monkey May 14, 2011

I had to get her store credit at The Cat Store for the oversized kitty nightshirt I bought her; I had never noticed that she sleeps au naturel. (I’m not always the most observant guy.) Read More

I got to spend some private time with Ram Dass in Maui, this past January….

It was 1997. I was visiting the Neem Karoli Baba ashram in Vrindaban, India, when I learned that my old friend and spiritual teacher, Ram Dass, had had a major, possibly life-threatening stroke.  How strange to hear such news in that particular place, which took me over 20 years to visit since first hearing Ram Dass’s wondrous stories about Maharaj-ji in the  mid ’70s. (“Maharaj-ji” is the less formal, affectionate honorific used by Neem Karoli Baba’s devotees.)    READ MORE

From my new Psychology Today post:

Things I did to prepare to be the
guest teacher at a writing class:

Dug up old handouts from the desk drawer in my studio out back where I haven’t set foot in months. I look around, notice how disgusting the studio is, the floor covered with dead stinkbugs, and get the portable dustbuster down from the storage loft. I begin vacuuming and discover that it only works for five minutes then overheats and shuts off.

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60 Is The New 8

I haven’t posted anything for 90 days.  I found that out today when Psychology Today told me, “You haven’t posted anything for 90 days. You are no longer considered an ‘active blogger.’  To restore your status, submit a new blog.”  So here it is:

January 23, 2011

60 Is The New 8

I’m already upset, in advance, that the local movie theaters in Richmond, Virginia will grant me the Senior Citizen rate in just 1 1/2 years, when I turn 60. For I have been the “Eternal Puer”- married late (47), have no kids, and few responsibilities except to be pretty and occasionally water the plants.

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Is it Time for Masculinism?

By Eliezer Sobel on October 24, 2010 in The 99th Monkey

The feminists have had their say over the years, and most men got the message: It’s not okay to objectify females, to see them as a conglomeration of body parts, to speak to them as if there is a microphone nestled between their breasts, or to act as if young women strutting the streets in mini-miniskirts and revealing halter tops are the least bit interesting to us unless they also happen to be carrying a copy of Goethe’s Faust.



I don’t usually get headaches. So when I woke up at 4 a.m. for the third consecutive day with a splitting pain in the back of my skull, I drew the logical conclusion: terminal brain tumor. The next obvious step in my thinking was to start my “bucket list,” (all the things I’ve never done and would like to do before “kicking the bucket.”)